How Does Everyone Have It All Figured Out?

Anne Giles is a student at USM studying spiritual psychology in Los Angeles. A scuba dive master, writer, saleswoman and activist, she lives for proving the impossible is possible. You can catch her drinking coffee late into the afternoon, swooning over good music, and planning her next trip. 

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Living in LA, it feels like I’m asked about my career on an hourly basis; what I do for a living, what my line of work is, or what my next goal or step is and frankly, I don’t know how to answer any of those questions.

It feels like all of my friends are employed full-time making a good income, starting five-year plans, and buying homes.  

I get excited when I can afford organic chicken for my cat, Raziel.

Once, a stranger asked me what I do for a living and my very successful friend started to answer for me–as if my part-time job was shameful!

Why do we define ourselves by our career?

I used to idolize the people who seemed to have it all figured out but I’ve come to realize that one of the biggest misconceptions about a career is the illusion that everyone who has one is happy in their work.

We see in others what we want to see in ourselves. Life is a mirror, a beautiful, sometimes frustrating reminder that our judgement of others is really a judgement of ourselves.

What if my friend celebrated me for going against the status quo instead of making excuses for me? What if we all took the time to relish in the process of figuring out what life has to offer–learning how to embrace the mystery of the unknown everyday?

I recently started saying to myself: I do what I want, when I want, how I want and for however long I want.

Instead of getting stressed or jealous about someone else’s career, I’m learning to recognize that I’m the boss of my story. I’m running my life how I want to run it. Because, frankly, I don’t know how to live any other way.