I got my head and my heart on the dance floor
Put your paws up! Burberry has committed to no longer using real fur, and California just passed a bill this week banning the sale of any products tested on animals! Cruelty-free is officially trending up.
What the stars have in store: P-R-O-G-R-E-S-S
You know what they say, teamwork makes the dream work, and this week is getting social. Band together to make a positive impact in the world. Collaborate with coworkers, and think about lending a hand to a volunteer effort.
“An all-loving, all-knowing force within us that never leaves our side. It is a source of unconditional love and acceptance, of protection and personal guidance. It is within all of us, and you don’t have to have any type of special abilities to access it."
Medical intuitive Katie Beecher explains that our intuition is always available to us for the answers we seek, and we never have to look anywhere else for approval. Just being ourselves is more than enough (no matter how many people are telling us what to do these days!).
“It takes a great deal of courage to change how you show yourself to the world, mostly because it means risking rejection. When you start loving and accepting yourself, you’re putting yourself first, saying no, and standing up for what you want.”
Phones down, eyes up
Easier said than done, right? If you’re starting to feel like the addiction is real, try these strategies to cut down on your phone time. Designate a “distractions” device, like an ipad, to house your most distracting apps, or create a “Mindless” folder on your phone. The name should act as a reminder when you’re about to distract yourself. Resist the urge to scroll while you’re waiting in line or doing other mindless activities, and use the time to recharge and give your brain a break instead.
When your new hire isn't the sharpest tool in the shed
Just know how much that power of expectation can affect them! Our thoughts are reflected in our actions subconsciously, which then affect the behavior of those we come into contact with (need proof?).
In the words of good ol’ Mr. Rogers, “When we look for what’s best in the person we happen to be with at the moment, we’re doing what God does.” Always err on the side of positivity, and it will reflect back at you.
How most people answer “How are you?”
Busy. If you’ve got too much on your plate and you’re feeling overwhelmed, make it more manageable with the 30-second rule: Choose an activity that will take under 30 seconds and do it. Repeat.
Another trick is to take a deep breath and ask yourself “What should I do next?” One thing, then check it off the list.
Hard to decide
A common problem. When you’re too busy and stressed, it becomes harder to make decisions. Here are a few tips and tricks next time you have a big one to make. Always come up with a few alternatives to any course of action you’re considering (the more alternatives, the higher the success rate of the decision itself), diversify the group of people who are helping make the decision, imagine three different outcomes for each scenario: one where things get better, one where they get worse and one where they get weird, and you can even conduct a “premortem”, where you imagine that it is months into the future and the plan has failed. Come up with a realistic story for why it has failed. If you still can’t decide, try out a modern-day pros & cons list.
Big life changes can be hard to make. To stop thinking and start doing, start with rockstar personal development and career coach Amanda Mausner’s 5 steps to make a change in your life! First, find awareness—think about all of the areas of your life and what could be improved. Stop procrastinating—take “tomorrow” or “next week” or “next year” out of your vocabulary. Commit—no matter how scary or uncomfortable, go all in. And finally, take risks. As Amanda says, “Risk is the opposite of being stuck.” Baby steps, you don’t have to do everything all at once.
Psst: Get your questions ready because Amanda and I will be going live very soon, and if you’re a Chicagoan looking to make a change, check her out!
Stayin’ alive, stayin’ alive
What a hospice and palliative care specialist has to say about dying a good death: There’s a lot of value in life beyond purpose and productivity. To see that there’s something bigger is much more interesting. Get in touch with the mystery of life and the power of just being at all.
Speaking of longevity, if you’re looking for a serious cleanse, try an Ayurvedic “panchakarma.” We’ll have more on Ayurveda coming your way soon, but until then, panchakarma is a pretty serious purification process said to rid the body of toxins using the body’s natural elimination organs like sweat glands, blood vessels and intestines. It should be done under the supervision of an expert and takes about a week, so settle in.
The process starts with a diet of sesame seeds or ghee to slow digestion, then a laxative is administered to flush everything out, followed by a full body oil massage, steam treatments to sweat out more impurities, an enema, and medicinal oils or herbal mixtures that are inhaled to clear out the sinuses. Ayurveda recommends doing this three times a year at the turn of spring, fall and winter or at least once a year to prevent disease from creeping in.
The 4 Horsemen
According to Enliven, there are four traits that most divorced couples have in common: criticism, defensiveness, contempt (this is a biggie) and stonewalling, which means shutting down and completely avoiding conversation. Everyone deals with these at one point or another, so don’t worry if these sound familiar; there’s always room for improvement. Instead of criticism, choose a complaint about how an action has made you feel. Instead of getting defensive, accept responsibility. Instead of contempt, become aware of the root cause of the feelings and “actively cultivate a sense of fondness and admiration.”
Get colorful. Bright, vivid color leads to feelings of delight and the liveliest of places and things. Try lightening the walls, floors, cabinets and counters in your home, or if you’re not in the mood for a complete reno, bring pops of color in through furniture and decorative objects. If you’ve just woken up on the wrong side of bed, lift your spirits with a colorful dress.
When your pants are shrinking…
Ditch PMS bloat by packing your plate with protein and potassium-rich foods (read: bananas, cantaloupe, tomatoes and asparagus) and healthy fats like chia, nuts and salmon.
The Food Police
Somebody sound the alarm, the food police are back to rid our refrigerators of all the dangerous foods out there and keep us apprised of all the ingredients we should be adding to our daily regiment.
Oat, the hot new milk on the block, is now getting a bad rap. Everyone’s slurping down bone broth to treat leaky gut, overcome food intolerances, improve joint health and boost the immune system. Polyphenols (found in cherries, strawberries, red grapes, artichokes, red onions, spinach, hazelnuts, dark chocolate, coffee and black tea) are all the rage for their ability to fight UV rays, radiation and pathogens, prevent disease, and improve brain health, strength and digestion. 650 mg are recommended daily, so either carry a tiny scale and weight log around in your pocket or just try to eat a few handfuls a day. Circumin (the active ingredient in Turmeric that gives it its yellow color) is the trendy new supplement for its strong antioxidant and anti-inflammatory properties.
So hot right now
Green burials. A gentler, more sustainable approach to the modern-day postmortem ceremony. No embalming chemicals, cement, steel or nonbiodegradable materials, they replace graveyards with fields of trees.
Body neutrality. Because body positivity may not be realistic all the time, and it’s making people feel guilty and anxious when they aren’t feeling their best. Neutrality focuses on what the body does instead of how it appears. See your body as a vehicle that can help you move about the world in a way that brings you joy.
Placentophagy. As in, the eating of placenta. 3 words: Don’t do it.
Social sports, like tennis, can add years to your life!
Vaginapractors, ya know, kinda like a chiropractor...
“You don’t ever have to do anything sensational for people to love you.”
- Fred Rogers, Won’t You Be My Neighbor (a must-see!)